Most of us make decisions based on feelings. Myself included.
The problem is when I "don't feel like it." What naturally follows is I actually listen to that feeling and fail to take the necessary action to move me closer to my goal.
Example, I don't feel like exercising today, so I don't. I don't feel like eating healthy, so I don't. I don't feel like making the bed/loading the dishwasher/fold the laundry/study and improve my personal finances/cook/update my resume/ apply for graduate school..etc........so I don't.
This was my default subconscious formula for architecting my day.
Feel -> Act -> Decide
This is me mindlessly rolling through my day. I did it most of my life and I am not proud of where it got me.
This is me unconsciously getting through the day.
The Solution when I learned about it, it significantly changed everything in my life.
"Decide ->Act -> Feel"
Every morning, I invest 2 to 5 minutes deliberately deciding the outcomes, goals, and feelings I want to experience that day.
The goal is focused attention with a specific intent of improving performance and experience in very specific areas of my life.
Then I map out the action steps.
Then I visualize them . In my minds eye, I see myself doing what needs to be done and I am enjoying the benefits of it.
And then I get on with my day and I just go for it.
I decided how I want to feel first thing in the morning.
Many times, I will decide how I want to feel, the type of experience I want for the next, the night before.
The whole process only takes less than 5 minutes.
All of us are only given 1440 minutes a day (60minutes x 24 hours).
If I can't devote 2 to 5 minutes doing this exercise, then shame on me.
I have found that about 70% of the time, I hit my objectives or the feelings I want.
When I don't really feel like taking the required action steps, I just force myself.
I think the saying "you fake it till you make it" is wrong.
In my experience, it is, "You fake it until you BECOME it."
My morning requires me to take a leadership role.
My morning requires me to be deliberate, to make choices, to pay attention on what personally matters.
It works for my clients and me.
Live with intention